Friday, April 15, 2011
Celebrations are in order but…the Lunch Lady stole our thunder!
So we are so thrilled because Parker made school all week…So why was Parker so grumpy when he came home? I was cheering and encouraging, but something felt off. At first I just thought he was exhausted or in pain, but no…it’s cause of the Lunch Lady.
Ready for this…because I must vent a moment…today, when Parker went to lunch and tried to sit with his friends, like he ALWAYS does, the lunch lady told him that he couldn’t sit there. Then, she told him he had to sit at the “handicapped table” and she made him move.
So I must interject here…it took us weeks at the beginning of the year to convince him to even use his wheel chair at school; so he could last longer and not get so tired. This all stems from when he was in elementary school because he was made fun of. The kids were calling him the “idiot with arthritis” and “don’t get too close to him cause you will be an idiot too”. So he didn’t want to stand out as different. But it was critical that he used his chair to increase his stamina, plus he was falling a lot.
So back to present time…his friend reluctantly pushed him over to the “handicapped table” where no one was seated and he was very upset. He asked if he could please go back and sit with his friends and she said “no you need to sit here by yourself.” And to make matters worse, the lunch lady then told kids that if they went and sat with him, then they would get a ticket (tickets will be part of a raffle later in the year). Parker was totally humiliated and kids he didn’t even know sat with him to get a “ticket”. So what kind of message is this sending our youth?
We are so proud that Parker didn’t lose it at school. We are even prouder that he has more empathy and understanding than most. And we are incredible proud that he went to school all week. Why didn’t he get a “ticket” for that?!?!?!