Cards for a Cause!

There are really amazing big-hearted people in this world!  I have been blessed to meet one such person, Helene Graziano.  Helene heard about Parker through a friend of mine who was sharing to raise awareness about juvenile arthritis.  My friend, Denise, told Helene about Parker’s giving heart and how another mom, Dawn Veselka, and I had started a non-profit to benefit children with chronic illness like Parker and Sadie (Dawn’s daughter).

www.helenespapercrafting.com
 

Helene and her daughter

Helene was very excited to hear about this because she has a business called Helene’s Papercrafting with “Stampin’ Up”.  Their new theme is “Making the Difference”.  Well, this new theme lead her to recruit her family’s help and set up a weekend card crafting marathon to benefit our non-profit, the High-5-Club.  Helene wanted to make a difference for children with chronic illness like Parker and their families.

Rochelle giving Helene a
High-Five

Now, what you need to understand is that Dawn and I have been working hard just to jump start High-5-Club and we only have a Facebook page, https://www.facebook.com/high5cluborg?fref=ts,  and a website landing page, www.high-5-club.com, so far.  We are a brand new non-profit with a 501c3.  We are still just trying to get everything lined up and along comes Helene who made High-5-Club her first official benefit event!  I just couldn’t believe it!

I went to the final of four card making sessions that she hosted.  As soon as I entered, I could feel the warmth of her heart.  Helene and her daughter greeted us all and guided us through such fun card crafts.  I knew I was there because of the benefit, but what I didn’t know was what fun it would be.  It was like I was transported away from my stress and I found myself relaxing, giggling, teasing, and conversing with an amazing group of women who were all there, not only to learn and craft, but to also give back to their community and make a difference.  I am thankful to each and every one of them.

At one point, Helene shared why she went into this business and she shared that she was drawn to it because she was a social worker; and what she liked about paper crafting was that it allowed for her to build relationships.  Her words resonated with me a great deal and as she spoke about how impressed she was with children like Parker; she took my breath away.  She was incredibly genuine and in that moment I was thinking how we are all interconnected and the relationships we build are the greatest gifts in this world.  The human spirit…the love we share…this is what pushes us on.

Helene donated $600 to the High-5-Club.  A huge “high five” goes out to her for our official first benefit and first donation. Yet, Helene has given much more through her kindness.  We are so very thankful.

 

Our Son’s Body is Under Attack But He is a Fighter

Michael and I have been processing a lot…should we blog….shouldn’t we blog… We know that people who care about us want to know what is going on with Parker, but we have been processing some hard information lately.  After a family talk, we decided it was time we share…but please know this is hard.  We have been working through a lot and we have been careful with our words because we don’t ever want to over burden or worry our oldest son, Logan, especially since he has been fighting his own battle with vicious migraines.  I am happy to report that these migraines are getting more controllable and along with his medicine and infusions he is now quite good at biofeedback.  His therapist is amazing and we are very impressed with this technique.  Last Saturday he got a migraine, took his meds, and did biofeedback and worked through the migraine and it went away.  This is pretty major and we are so proud of him.

One reason we haven’t blogged lately about Parker is we wanted to first find out how Logan is processing all of this.  He is in a better place now and he wants us to continue to blog.  Then there is Parker, he has been processing some very intense and heavy thoughts because we got some additional scary news about a week and a half ago.  We are quite proud of Parker too.  He processed his concerns aloud with me and his counselor.  He too wants us to share what is going on.  Michael, the boys, and I have prayed and talked and processed and we feel that others need to know because we need support; we want others to learn about the various paths this disease takes; and we need help raising funds so that one day there will be a cure for children with juvenile arthritis.

Parker has complained for quite some time that his chest hurts.  In fact, he has had chest pain throughout this battle against systemic JA.  Several times it has been costocondritis (there are joints in the rib cage and they can become inflamed and painful), other times it has been the pericardial effusion (swelling of the heart lining), and sometimes it was his asthma.  But even after his last round of pericardial effusion he has continued to complain.  And when we were at the rheumatologists this last month he was having the pain again so they ordered a stat echo cardiogram.  It came out fine.  Thank God.  So then we talked about how maybe since we have been trying to decrease the steroids, that maybe it was his bodies way of saying “hold on…I like those steroids…I am use to them…now I have to work harder to breathe…”  So we thought maybe it was causing his asthma to flare because he is so steroid dependent now.  But, he also had been on this dose of steroid for over a month now. 

We decided it was time he see a pulmonologist to get help with decreasing the steroids.  Because Parker’s rheumy is about 2.5 hours away, she suggested we go to our local allergist (who knows Parker very well) and get a referral to a local pulmonologist that she recommends.  So we went and the allergist ran a PFT (pulmonary function test)…he failed…moderate obstruction.  So she increased Parker’s inhalant steroid and sent us to the pulmonologist for consult.  At this point, we were seriously thinking this was just his asthma (please don’t take me wrong…asthma is serious too…but you have to remember we have been dealing with asthma his entire life and we have felt like we totally had that medical issue under control). 

We went to the pulmonologist last Monday…Michael was out of town on business…oh how I wish he would have been home, because I felt like our world had turned upside down just as we had started to roll along a good path.  This newest doctor was such a kind and gentle spirit and I am so incredibly thankful that he had the nurse take Parker out of the room while he first explained to me what his impressions were.  It helped me hold it together better when he later explained to Parker. 

During our visit, Parker did the same pulmonary test again…again obstruction…then they gave Parker a breathing treatment…the doc’s theory was if the test results got better after using the meds then we know it’s just his asthma…if not, then it’s more…  He repeated the regular PFT and once again…obstruction.  This led him to further tests…a more complex PFT.  The spirometer reading was not good…  it showed not only obstruction but also restriction and this means he likely has mixed lung disease. 

So you might be thinking, what in the world does this mean…because I certainly didn’t understand it.  I am still trying to understand it.  Apparently there is no part of the body that is immune to the attack of systemic JA!  When they say it can affect any organ…well, now we really know this.  I mean…yes, it has already attacked so much…but this one organ really hit me hard…The crazy thing is, we have been celebrating because Parker’s blood work has improved so much.  He also had decreased swelling (although we noticed things are starting to swell again…and hurt more…and he is having a few low-grade fevers with rashes), but he has better blood work.  This disease is simply the cruelest thing I have ever witnessed. It teases with your emotions…gives you a false sense of security.   Our understanding is that with mixed lung disease, Parker is having both asthma and interstitial lung disease.  The pulmonologist said that he is like 1% of kids dealing with pulmonary disease.  This explains why his chest has been hurting and burning.  It also explains why he has been sleeping a lot more again.

So, yes, our son’s body is attacking itself!  And we are obviously all concerned about this.  The docs are working together…they are checking his meds, trying to figure out to what extent damage has taken place; we have more tests in the near future; and we are all arming up in our battle gear to fight alongside this JA warrior and win with PURPLE Parker Power.  Parker is strong-willed and we are so very glad that he is because he is fighting for his life and we love him dearly.

LOVE Pushes HOPE Higher and Higher



Waiting for Doc



For the last two and a half years we have made our 2.5 hour drive to the hospital every two weeks for treatment for Parker.  We are moving into 2013 with a much needed break from this schedule along with much hope for continued improvement.  Most of Parker’s treatment is at home now and we don’t have to go back to the hospital as frequent…we now go every 3 months.   In reflecting on this last year, a tremendous amount has happened.  With every hurtle we have continued with strength to take the leap of faith needed to get us to the place we need to be for our family.  Of course, Parker has been incredibly strong through all of this, but Logan has been just as strong, if not stronger.  As adults, Michael and I have tried to maintain day-to-day needs…but so has Logan. 



Logan



Logan's eyes get like this with the really bad migraines.



Logan has his own health issues with his relentless migraines this year.  This is a condition he has had since he was 5 years old and we have a very strong history of migraines in our family, but as Logan has entered his mid-teen years they have been more difficult to manage.   These migraines have not only impacted his health, but also his social life, education and stamina.  He continues to overcome and it is remarkable that he pushes forward while also supporting his brother and trying to create a balance in his life.  We are proud of the young man that he has become and his future has much promise and I am looking forward to the days to come.



Christmas 2012



We also want to celebrate Parker’s progress…this year pushed our hope higher and higher.  This year Parker has been on multiple biologic drugs to combat against juvenile arthritis.  I know that these drug names mean little to the general public (except maybe “Enbrel”) but bear with me as I process this…ready…he has been on actemra, then actemra with Enbrel and soon after he also began IVIG infusions (IVIG is a blood plasma to treat hypogammaglubulinemia and is not a biologic).  Then he took actemra with Enbrel and a round of remicaide, then he needed to stop all these (including IVIG) in order to proceed with the “study drug’s wash out process”.  During the wash-out of these previous biologics we had to up his steroids and begin the biologic kineret (twice a day) because he could take kineret up to 4 days prior to starting the RAPPORT study looking at the effects of the biologic rilanocept on systemic on-set juvenile arthritis.

Soon after starting the study, Parker’s health started to decline…yes, we are pretty darn certain he got the placebo and not the rilonacept.  Parker landed in the hospital in tremendous pain, swelling and pericardial effusion.  But looking back on all this, Parker has no regrets.  He knows he is playing a small role in impacting the future for children with JA.  Our family went into this last year knowing it was going to be a tough one.  We decided to put school to the side and be ok with hospital homebound while we worked on supporting Parker’s health.  We now feel like we are on the flip side…  What we have learned is that with each step forward…we are moving forward at a slow and steady pace…and although the journey may feel endless at times, we have felt tremendous forward propelling LOVE.



Surprise care package from Sloans via the infusion room nurses!



Thank you Ky for my special Parker Snowman!



This love has come from very unexpected places through very caring actions.  We know people lead busy lives with their own struggles and we are thankful for each and every person who has paused to show us love through your calls, emails, cards, text messages, and Facebook posts.  We are also incredibly appreciative for the actions people have taken…hugs, help with picking up Logan, meal prep/restaurant gift cards, doing laundry/cleaning, dropping by to say hi, leaving notes on the windshield, donations to the AF walk and High-5-Club, help to maintain work, comments on our blog, hospital visits, surprise packages, joining our walk team, helping fund raise, willingness to drive across the state to help us access an “out of stock” med, listening, encouraging, and validating our feelings.

We also want to thank the medical staff supporting Parker.  We know we are still on this journey…  Thank you for your passion in this field, your work is unbelievably difficult and we need more people like you in this world.  And I am not only referring to the doctors and nurses, but also all of the people behind the scenes who process the relentless amount of paperwork and insurance “overrides” because the insurance companies are not always open and willing to charter in untraveled territory.  Thank God that Parker was the first child in the state of Florida to get approval for the study drug once the study ended.  Multiple biologics failed him…this is the first drug that has had enough of an impact on him that we are witnessing some of the “old Parker” return.  When a devastating chronic illness impacts a family, you begin to try to create “new norms” and you work hard to find happiness in the little moments and pretend a bit that they are as wonderful, if not better than the happiness you experienced prior to the “disease” entering your life.  And in some ways they are…because they are felt with an increased intensity…emotional and physical pain does that to a person… But oh the JOY and renewed hope we feel with our “old Parker’s” return.  

Turning in wheelchair wheels for
skateboard wheels.

Logan and Parker are experiencing their brotherly passions again:  quirky fun, chitter chatter, planning events again, gaming together, and skateboarding…yes, skateboarding!  Logan spent his own money this Christmas to refurbish Parker’s board to make it safer for him.  He got him better wheels with a better center of gravity, bushings, bearing spacer, and stronger grip tape. 

Love is totally rolling this pair forward… and Michael and I love witnessing this…Here’s to continued happiness in the New Year.

Look Doc, I am working my stiff ankles!